My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3-4 months and we're both in our senior years in high school. Prior to dating we were friends for 2 years.
Everything has been going fine so far. Our families like each other, we have great chemistry, and I can easily see myself spending the rest of my life with him.
But the problem is we have different religions.
He's heavily Christian and I'm floating between Atheism and Buddism(because of my upbringing).
So far we haven't had many disagreements because our practices don't interfere with each other. We both don't mind waiting until marriage for sex and I typically do homework on Sunday while he's in church. My vegetarianism and meditation don't really affect him at all.
But he wants to convert me because he believes that it will be holier in god's eyes if he dates another Christian and because he's scared I won't go to heaven with him. And I don't know if I could ever believe in Christianity because I've spent my entire life thus far believing in nothing.
While I do acknowledge that there probably is a god out there somewhere I don't believe there is only one and I certainly don't believe that every detail in the bible is true. And it completely astounds me that he doesn't believe in evolution or the big bang.
So far our parents haven't cared too much. His parents in particular don't care as long as he continues to practice his faith and I don't convert him to buddism or something.
So I'm stuck. We've talked about it countless times and he always tells me he truly believes that we are meant to stay together which is why he fears living an eternity in heaven without me. And it makes me feel terrible because he actually cries when he thinks about me going to hell. I honestly don't know what to do because he clearly cares about this a lot.
We've discussed the concept of practicing both faiths and raising our children to believe in both but he believes it's spiritually wrong and worries that this will drive him further away from god.
So now I'm considering leaving him just to avoid the potentially very painful relationship before the painful part happens.
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I've had this problem before.
Honestly, you need to resolve your difference. That sucks and it's hard to hear, but unless you come to a compromise, or one of your effectively converts the other, it's going to eat away at your relationship.
So talk it out with him. Maybe you can show him that, say, the bible is not a divine document? That it has numerous blatant contradictions and authorship by more than one individual? etc.
You don't have to boot him out of Christianity, but the Christian "left" can get along very well with any liberal Atheist/Buddhist.0