If a meet a guy and we start dating and I think we like each other and how long should I make him wait that is acceptable, he does not think I am a whore, yet he won't think I am frigid either? What say you guys? What is the acceptable amount of dates that a guy think is cool and natural for having sex?
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Assuming your listed age range is correct, I will give you age-appropriate advice.
Younger folks don't know themselves very well, much less know what they want and need in a relationship, so they NEED to move more slowly to avoid mistakes. As people get older and have more life and relationship experience, the assumption is that you know your own needs much better, are less naive, and are better able to figure out quickly if another person is a good match for you, so they don't need to wait as long.
I'm sure you've heard of the "Third Date Rule." This simply means you wait for the third date to have sex, BUT, this rule assumes you are AT LEAST in your mid-to-late 20s and are an active, experienced dater. The less experience you have with dating, the longer you should wait.
At your age, unless you haven't dated in decades (recently divorced, etc.), you should probably know yourself and your needs pretty well, and shouldn't be shy about asking a lot of questions of the new guy and figuring out if he is going to be compatible with you. Assuming you are feeling good about compatibility, and that you are both attracted to each other, than 3-5 dates is a good guideline. Older folks have less need for "games", but by making him wait at least a couple of dates assures him you don't just jump into bed with everyone. If you're comfortable on the third date, then I'm sure he'll be happy both ways (getting sex, and being reassured that you don't sleep around like crazy).2