I've been dating this great guy for about 6 weeks. He's sweet and respectful, we have amazing chemistry on all levels, and we're happy, except for one thing..he's a musician, 32 years old, lives with 5 roommates (also musicians) and when we first started dating he was unemployed. He's been employed on and off since then, but he always complains about how much he hates work, wishes he never had to, wishes he could just have tons of money and just play music :P
Anyways, he quit the last job he had because it was making him sick..now he is looking for a new job..he has finance experience and management experience but hates desk jobs, and doesn't want too much responsibility...he whines a lot about life! and he has tons of debt...
I do care about him, and wish he just had some aspirations for the future..I really don't want to end up being with him long term, and being the one who has to work to make ends meet, because he wants to play music or be a stay at home dad (he said he wouldn't mind)...Has anyone been in this situation?
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Well, you have to figure out whether or not the amount of money he has is a deal breaker for you. He seems to be a right brain dominant person, usually those people are cut out for more creative activities. He could probably force himself to become more of a run of the mill, conventional person. But would you want him to sacrifice his own hapiness to make you happy? Vice versa, how much does financial stability mean to you? Is it a relationship deal breaker? You may find a find guy who is more of a "desk job", higher income earner, but he'll probably be boring to for you. But which is more important?0