Thanks in advance for your advice! I promise I will return the favor and answer your current question (if you have one posted).
My guy and I started off as dating, but he lost his job and felt it wasn't the right time to be dating/starting a relationship, so he wanted to just be friends right now. He likes me (he told me) and he also told me that being friends is hard since he wants to be with me.
We have been going on 'dates' and hanging out like normal... cuddling, holding hands, flirting, but no kissing or other physical signs of affection.
Last time we hung out we agreed to "see where things go." Which I feel is an improvement from wanting to be 'just friends'. BUT, I tried to kiss him and I could tell he wanted to, but he said no.
I don't see what the big issue is... we like each other, we have been 'dating' for a month, why can't we just be together? Why does it have to be the right time?
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Unemployment and living at home will prevent many guys from pursuing a woman. When a guy reaches adulthood, he wants to feel masculine, more importantly, he wants her to view him as such. Independence along with the ability to provide for or aide a woman plays a major role in feeling masculine. With the success of the modern woman, guys feel even more pressure to live up to the "male's role." Your guy's reluctance to enter into a relationship with you at this time seems to be indicative of that.
In the interim, due to the newness of the relationship, it may a good idea to assure him that you understand his position and that you will stick by him through it. Once he is assured, perhaps he will want to be in a relationship with you no matter what his financial position is.3
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