before 3 years and after that he started getting tired of girls after dating for 6 month and less. I know its risky and believe it or not he has told me that he might hurt me Because he is not a good guy but since I love him I told him to be together and now we are dating. Now am afraid to lose him. I am just counting days till he dumps me. What can I do so that he won't dump me or make him fall in love woth me deeply so that I won't lose him? Guys you should help me out here. thank you so much.
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I certainly would NOT say that there is nothing you can do.
First, I suggest you limit intimacy with him as a preventative action. The more intimate you get with him, the larger the risk... the harder the fall. If he breaks up with you over this then it's for the best; he was only using you.
The only way you won't lose him is if you help him change himself. He needs to correct the way in which he views himself, the world, and relationships. He needs to learn who he really is: he is a prince in this kingdom we call Life. I'm not being super religious... this is the right way to view reality.
He can learn who he is by watching you; by observing your behavior, your words, and your beliefs. You are strong, you are encouraging, you are joyful, you are generous, you are a positive influence in this world, and you are a productive member of the human species. Be this person both when he's around and when he's not around. Tell him who he is, and gently reprimand him when he doubts himself.
You can only reintroduce intimacy as a reward for change. After you see some change in his thinking, increase the intimacy by a baby step. Continue to look for change, and continue to reward it.
Once you are satisfied with the amount that his mind has changed, and you are convinced that he loves you, and doesn't want to leave you, learn to be a follower. Let him be your leader, and show your appreciation for his excellent leadership. Deep down, every man wants to be a king for his queen... a prince for his princess.0