I'm dating interracially. Not for any ulterior motive. Been together for four years and are madly in love.
Even after all this time though, it still makes my skin crawl with the attention we get. Its always subtle. Maybe a double take, an awkward grin, sometimes exchanged glances between other couples. We both have gotten the up and down look, and then after that comes the confusion.
(I'm African American if that matters). I've gotten better at ignoring it, as I made that choice when I became part of an IR relationship. But I wish it still wouldn't be so weird for everyone.
I'm the type of person who likes to melt into the background and not draw attention to myself. But I constantly think about what people must be thinking because I've found that people don't assume your in an IR relationship for love. It's always negative assumptions that people use to pigeon-hole...unusual pairings, if you will.
My boyfriend holds my hand tightly as we stroll anywhere public and it gives me strength. I usually have a tough skin but these thoughts make me nervous.
Anyone else feel the same who are in IRs'?
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I've been in a few interracial relationships. Yeah I know the feeling. People gave me such crap for it. People giving her crap for it telling her to date a black guy instead. People telling me to date a white girl. People staring, people acting snooty, people giving the stinkeye. Then there where all the people who tried telling her that I was just using her. They'd tell her I was using her, or how I was only dating her because she's black, or because she's not white like it was some kind of a fetish. Then there's the people who tried to break us up by lying to her, telling her I was cheating on her. It was all a bunch of crap.
Alas, you are not alone. This kind of stuff happens all the time. People are still racist. They're still prejudiced. If anyone disagrees with me, try dating someone of another race sometime, and see what I'm talking about. Don't want to? Try this. Imagine your offspring, siblings, cousin, or close family member dating someone of a different race. Now be honest. How do you think you'll react? I know how I'd react. I've done it. I've seen it done. I know how it is. Do you?
Anyway, DarkSamus, I do sympathize. It does suck when people give you crap. Though I will tell you that if all you're getting is stares, you've got it good. It bites how people can get. So many say they're not racist, but some people will surprise you. Yeah, again, it sucks.
I wish you the best with your boyfriend. I hope that what other people think say and do doesn't effect you and your relationship as it did mine. I often wondered if that's why the relationship fell apart, or rather whether if it was a major contributing factor. So I wish you the best, and hope things work out between you. Stay strong, and try not to let those bastards get to you.