A few months ago, I moved to a new state. Soon after that move, I went on a date with this one girl...it was OK. Not a bad date, but not outstanding either, and there was something of a lack of chemistry between us. We haven't seen each other since, but she occasionally texts and e-mails me.
Then recently, I went on a date with a second girl who I hit it off with tremendously...she's just fantastic and I could see myself being with her in a long-term sense down the line.
Here's my issue: the first girl still sends me cutesy messages and wants to hang out again...but obviously I want no part of that, since I'm now seeing someone that I really click with. What is the best way to let the first girl know this?
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This is easy, don't flirt back. And, when making idle conversation mention that you're dating someone.
Texting someone regularly isn't any type of commitment. You don't owe her anything nor should she expect anything from you. I guarantee she's been on other dates since you but has no need to mention it since you're both kinda flirty.
So just stop flirting, stop texting, or mention that you're dating someone next time it seems appropriate. Like, "Oh, I can't meet you next week because I have a date that night, maybe another time."