Ok.. ladies and gents. I am in desperate need of some opinions and advice. So last night. I was with my girlfriend ok, sooo then her best friend was there. And at a point, her friend, who is a female I might add. Which is also a point to why I am not sure what to think. Ok sooo her friend had told me int he past that her and my girlfriend have ""experimented"" with each other.. which is ok, I understand, It happens, I hear about it all the time. But I figured that it was before my relationship with my girlfriend... Soooo I thought nothing of it, past is past, its all good. Soooo we were watching a movie yesterday and my girlfriend was laying up against me on the couch, and her friend was pretty much laying up on or next to her under a blanket. Soooo, her friend proceeded to unzip and unbutton my gf's pants under the blanket... thinking maybe I won't notice or something idk. But ok, long story short without the details of how I knew what was going on, she was fingering/playing with my girlfriend right next to me, and thought they were secretive about it... Now, I didn't say anything.. I was thinking to myself wtf? like... wtf would I even say? Soooo I figured I would just trap up my anger/confusion and talk to my girlfriend about it when we were alone... soooo... then when we were alone... my stupid self can't come up with anything better to say something like ""by the way, tell your friend way to be obvious... and don't do that anymore"" and she just kinda gave me an ""embarassed, yet, not soo upset or ashamed"" ok. sooo and I can't help but like not be mad at her... like not even close, can't even act upset.. so I just hugged her and kissed her. Sooo... now... its eating me up inside... thinking about it and how I feel that it is unfaithful. I feel that its still bad even tho its a girl and her friend. Granite I'm glad its a girl and not a guy cause I would have for sure said something then and there. But anyways... its eating up at me and I feel that I missed my window to talk about it when I just brushed it away. And lately her and I have had a lot of ""discussions"" of thigns that are "wrong" or unappealing to the relationship. And I don't know.. I am afraid to bring this up and have her think all I do is complain or find things that are bad... but that's not it at all.. This one really upset me. We haven't been going out to long so I am still afraid of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time still. I feel like its not right for that to take place.. .am I wrong? What should I say...? or do...? I can't find the advice to give myself on this one... please everyone... just tell me if I'm wrong for even getting upset or mad...
I am really sorry for the book and a half here... But I really need some advice on this one. I don't normally ask for help cause I can figure stuff out myself. but this one has me beating my mind up bad. Please help.
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There is literally no reason that the gender of the person your girlfriend was fooling around with should matter. There is literally no difference between her being fingered by a male friend she used to "fool around with" and a female friend that she used to "fool around with". Honestly, if I had a girlfriend that did that, I would have dumped her on the spot, no matter how much I liked her. That's just a disgustingly terrible thing to do.3