Just curious (although I know people are different) - I have been dating someone for a few weeks and they seemed so keen and texting all the time then after our last date when he seemed more keen then ever! Suddenly he seems to have withdrawn. So what makes guys want to stay around and what makes you withdraw?
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I can give you a personal example of both, as far as withdrawal and connecting with someone.
I went on a date with this woman I met through work a few months ago. We had some of the same interests, both personally and professionally, and I thought that at least would have been a good foundation. But on our date, she mentioned several exes pretty prominently, and added that a few of them are still in contact with her - as recently as one week prior to our date. She also displayed tendencies that bordered on selfish and narcissistic. For me, those were all giant red flags, and I immediately withdrew from her in my mind. Then, I withdrew completely and she genuinely wanted to know why, and I told her. Let's just say she didn't exactly accept where I was coming from. Next...
I met a different woman not too long after that, who's showing me with each passing day that she's everything I've wanted in someone else. She's cute, kind, generous, dedicated, funny, supportive and makes me feel so special. I've never felt this way about anyone I've ever come across previously. When I'm with her, I feel like life makes sense...like there's no possibility that's not attainable. It's amazing. That's what makes me stay around...1