It sounds simple I know. But there are guys who go really far faking an interest in all your boring stuff just to get to the bedroom. It's like a game to them or sth. They like the ''hunt''. This just happened to my younger friend and she asked me how to tell. But I don't usually date guys like that, I don't usually date :D if I do it's usually a very different type of guys. Hence I"ve never been in her situation and don't know what advice to give her :/
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.1) KNOW WHAT YOUR OWN INTENTIONS ARE FIRST! make a list of everything you want in a perfect man (be realistic now) ie: steady job, honesty, can talk about anything with me, wants love and a relationship... ... and do not give your heart to a guy who does not fit your requirements.
.2) have guys ask you out
.3) Learn some communication skills. Go out with the guys and have a great time! Enjoy the moment! Make friends! TALK TO THE GUYS! ASK QUESTIONS! Learn about a guy and see where he feels his life is going.
girl: "so how come you don't have a girlfriend?"
guy: "well I'm not really looking for anything right now, I just got out of a relationship so I just want to better myself"
.4) once you find out that he does not meet your requirements on your list because he is not looking for a relationship, then you already know what his intentions are and you do not have to worry about feeling used. You can continue to be JUST FRIENDS with the guy or maybe you can throw some sex into your friendship, its your choice.
5.) If you have chosen to be just friends with the guy and do not have sex with him, and then he stops talking to you. That is how you know he just wanted sex. Let him go, usually you will figure that out after a week though because guys will not continuesly talk to you everyday, take you out on dates, spend time with you all the time! for months just to get some sex from you... or you could f*** him, it is your choice. If a guy really likes you as a person, then he will still be your friend and not pressure you into sex and he will go as long as you want him to without trying to have sex with you. Although he would still be getting sex from somewhere else, he still likes you as a person.
CAUTION! If you know you catch feelings when you have sex, then do not have sex untill you are in a relationship. Do not have sex thinking that you are gonna make a man fall in love with you. Men do not work like that. Sex without being in a relationship is just sex!
CAUTION! Guys that do want relationships can still have meaningless sex with a girl and will still think of sex as just sex if they are not in a relationship with you. So figure out what their intentions are before you give your goods up and then decide on your next step.1