I started talking to this girl and we've gone on two dates so far, and really enjoy each others company. I have a feeling she might be using me, based of two reason, one she never comes down to see me, I usually have to wind up going to her place which is an hour and a half away, and she only sees me when she's in the area which is rare, and two(give or take on this one) she's a little wild/feisty and drinks constantly(on our second date I spent the night and she had 6 coronas( offered me one but I don't drink) and she was texting someone when I was there not even watching the movie which was our date. Am I being used, or is she just not interested? Thanks
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Well it's hard to tell whether she's using you or not at this stage. I would hardly consider two dates anything serious. Have you guys said you are boyfriend/girlfriend yet?
1.5 hours sounds like a long trip, so personally I understand why she doesn't choose to travel that distance to see a guy she's dated a few times. That doesn't mean she doesn't like you at all, but maybe she's not interested enough at this stage to invest the same kind of effort you are.
To me, the issue is less how much she likes you, and more about her personality type - wild, erratic, a bit rude with a short attention span. You on the other hand seem sensible, sweet and nurturing. I can see why that's difficult, although I hardly think it means she is using you. I mean, honestly, at your age, what could she possibly be using you for except for the pleasure of your company?
i think take it at face value. She enjoys your company but is not as serious as you are. You have different values and different ideas of fun. If you can enjoy that then proceed with caution. Just don't fall in love yet because she certainly hasn't.1