First, I am 52 was widowed almost 3 years ago and I've began dating in earnest. I was introduced to a lady and we seemed to hit it off. We became intiment at about 2 months. Around that time I ruptured my Achilles tendon and had surgery and was having a difficult time moving about. We had a date that she broke citing she didn't feel well ant that my cast was coming off this week, why don't we postpone until next week? I say fine, makes sense, we will wait till next week and I hopefully will be walking better. I have 4 daughters, ages 21, 21, 17, 13. She is 49 and has one son and one daughter, both out of the house. She is divorced.
This particular Saturday night, I'm home alone. I decide around 9pm to get a bite at a local Chile's. I hobble in on my crutches and sit in the lounge area so I can watch basketball on TV. I look up after ordering and what do I see? This woman sitting next to another man in a booth and he has his arm around her. We made eye contact, but I did not react. She gets up and comes over and tells me she can explain and will call me later. My reaction is "fast recovery, I've seen all I need to see, you need to go back to your date". Rude as hell to go talk to another man if you are out with someone. I finish my supper an go on back home when I'm done. I did not take her call that night or any of the 2 dozen over the next week or so plus dozens of text messages. I was done in my mind. Not hurt and feeling sorry for myself. Just done. She was off the list in my mind. When you've buried your spouse of 25 years, you've already dealt with the worst life has to offer, so casting a deceitful bitch aside is nothing. Turns out she is of the mindset of having the man on the way out, the current man, and the one in the hold. This guy was the current man. I apparently was the one in the hold, and God knows what happened to the man on the way out. From that point on, she was a nonentity to me. My fault I did not pick up on this.
I hate dating to begin with. Too many BS games. I despised the game when I was younger and even more so nowadays. Those my age should know better. I have no time for BS games with 2 kids in college an 2 in public school and all the activities my younger ones are in. This woman eventually turned up at my house to try and talk to me and smooth things over. As luck would have it, all 4 of my daughters were home to intervene. I just said, take care of it. I don't care what she has to say. Needless to say, my girls swarmed her like a wolf pack. My girls knew what happened so they didn't have any sympathy for her.
Now, considering romantic opportunities for a man my age are few and far between despite me still being very athletic an energetic for my age. Did I make a mistake not hearing this woman out and possibly giving her a second chance? Personally, I am repulsed that I possibly was intiment at the same time she was with the man at Chile's. Sort of like sharing a toothbrush with a stranger, but worse. Any opinion
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Good for you. I would have done the same thing. I admire that you are strong enough to stand up to her and not be her doormat. You don't need women like that in your life considering your situation. I cannot believe women at that age still play games. THey life hard for women like me who are honest and have integrity! All you women that play with a man's heart, grow the hell up! I am so sorry this happened to you. You did the right thing. You played it classy and it seems like you weren't hurt because you were logical about it.1