My boyfriend broke up with me last tuesday (041419). We even went out that very same day and everything seemed like normal. I didn't notice something was wrong, or that it would be our last day as a couple. That night before we went to sleep, he told me that he wants to be free. He said he want to enjoy his life, and that I should as well. I asked him why but all he said was that he needed time.
After two days of trying to get him to talk to me, since I have a lot of unanswered questions, I received a message from him saying that he's very confused because there's two of us now in his heart. He's loving another girl, while were together. And it kills me to know that he had chosen her, over me - his girlfriend of 3 years.
I don't know what to do, and I don't want to let him go. I don't want him to end up getting hurt by this girl because he said he's not sure if they would be happy. I told him everything to make him stay, but he chose her.
Now I just don't know what to do. Should I push myself to him, and try to get him back? Or should I let him be with her, even though it's breaking my heart. I don't want to let him go, because I don't want to have regrets.
My friends told me that I should just forget about him, but I can't. It's hard for me to wake up every morning, knowing that he's already enjoying his life with someone else. He said he still love me, but he wanted to try working it out with her.
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Let's consider this from a best/worst case scenario:
Worst Case - He was already seeing this other girl while you two were together. He probably slept with her too and was only willing to break up with you after he was certain his new relationship with her would work. Girls tend to do this to guys more often than the other way around.
Best Case - The spark of the relationship was gone. You probably noticed a decline/staleness of your sex life (if you engaged in one). He broke up with you because the advantages (companionship, support, etc.) no longer outweighed the disadvantages (clinginess, lack of freedom, etc.). He was left emotionally vulnerable and met this other girl right after. Their feelings quickly escalated for each other, but because it was so fast and he now "loves" her after 3 days, this sort of extremely rapid increase in feelings cannot be sustained. The fling between them will probably be short-lived.
The true case is probably somewhere in between. Figure out what it is before thinking about what to do.0