Here's a quick rundown...
Met in November. Met up again in January (at a club), had first kiss and mutually agreed we would definitely get together for a date.
First date - pursued and initiated by him, took me out for dinner, spent hours talking and laughing, I didn't stay the night but it ended with a bit of kissing ;) He also spent the whole night commenting how 'great' everything was going. He messaged me the next day and then went quiet for a week.
Second date - contact initiated by me (casual message to say hi), date initiated by him, he wanted to cook dinner together but then he decided we would do that 'next time' (possible 3rd date?), introduced me to his brother (they live together), took me out for dinner, grabbed a bottle of wine afterward and then sat on his balcony again talking and laughing (conversation flows amazingly), asked me to stay over, I said yes, requested for us to have a sleep-in the following morning, took me out for brunch, I left his place at about 2pm. No sex, just cuddling and lots of kissing (girly problems preventing anything happening!)
Texted to thank him. Flirted for a bit. I ended the conversation (goodnight).
Texted him to say hi 4 days later at 11am, he continued the conversation back and forth till 10pm. I ended the conversation (goodnight).
He then texts me 5 days later, has a long random conversation (how are you, tells me what's new) so after about 45mins of this I decide to bite the bullet and send the following:
ME: yep :) p.s. are you ever going to come and visit me? Hehe I can show you how exciting is
HIM: Lol I will at some stage. I've got some things I need to put into motion here first. When that's all set then it can happen. night nite x
PLEASE EXPLAIN haha
Some background info:
1. First time he's ever ended the conversation
2. I didn't write back
3. That was a week ago now and no contact since
4. I expected either 'yes sure I will visit you, let's make plans' OR 'I'm busy (ie. NO)'. I feel this message means 'No'
5. We live about a 1.5 hour drive from each other - he lives in the city and I'm in a suburb (a distance covered by thousands of commuters daily), he doesn't own a car (his brother does though) and he said he's only ever been to my town 2-3 times when he was younger
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Have a look at your last message there. He may well have understood that as: "Not now, but possibly later. Back off me a bit I am uncomfortable with the speed."
And keep in mind that although it doesn't seem like a big deal to travel from the small town to the big city, the other way around is psychologically much longer. It is just one of those things. So he may unconsciously feel that going all the way out to your place would be a "big adventure", while you may feel that going the same way is just a small bus ride away. These things complicate planning and what one immediately sees as possibilities.