Been seeing a girl for 2 months, one month exclusively. I told her my ground rules in dating that I don't appreciate jealousy and will not tolerate being disrespected. With that being said it has been a great time with her until this past weekend. While out for good ol' St Patrick's day I was talking with my friend's wife and my girlfriend turned to me and said "really?" as if I was doing something wrong by talking with her. She got pissed and actually left the bar, I saw absolutely nothing wrong with what I did and refused to go get her and my buddy ended up getting her back to the bar. When she came back and talked she mentioned she's a "jealous" person but promised this won't ever happen again which I highly doubt. She will probably just keep it in until one day it just blows up. In her past relationships guys have cheated on her and I have not given her one reason why I would cheat but I will never prove that I won't cheat, I shouldn't have to. Dating exclusively is enough of a statement that I won't cheat. I know I'm a flirty/good looking guy and have plenty of opportunities to make "friends" but when I do date women I treat them how they should be treated and I expect the same in return. I have extremely high standards and still debating ending this relationship because either way you look at it this will surface again eventually. Looking for some outside viewpoints.
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It's really hard to trust lately and it's surprising how ruthless people can be in terms of cheating. People go years and years before realizing they're being cheated on. And the people that you would least expect it from are the ones who are doing it. Yes, it sucks that she's cautious and afraid of being hurt but sorry that's life. When you get hurt repeatedly, you're afraid of putting yourself out there. And to be honest, if you're a "flirty" guy, maybe you should have enough respect for your girlfriend not to flirt with other women in front of her. That's just basic respect. No other woman deserves your attention in that manner except for her. I'm sure in your head you were just talking to your friend's wife, but maybe she noticed you got a little bit more flirtatious than you should have.
You never know who to trust and just because you say you won't cheat on her, doesn't mean that that's the truth. People lie ALL the time saying they would NEVER hurt their significant other in that way, and they do it anyways. So maybe you should show her loyalty by not disrespecting her and flirting with other women in front of her. Because that's not gonna make trusting you any easier.
If you think it's not worth it to put a little patience and understanding into things then obviously she's not the one for you. Because if you really care about her, you'd be willing to work through things.