I have been in a relationship with a much younger man for two months. I have children living with me so we both decided to wait a while before I introduce him. I have been single for more then a year before I met him so I was cautious to not dive in too soon but I found him extremely attractive and he keeps on telling me the same. We get on well and have a good sexual relationship. The only problem is that at times he seems to withdraw himself from me. One week ago I noticed he was online on Facebook but said nothing to me. He read my good morning message but did not reply.I felt hurt and confused and told him so. WE got into a fight and then he started to swear at me.My instinct was to delete and block him and stop myself from falling for him any harder. This caused him to send me 35 text messages begging me not to leave him and telling me he loves me and could not carry on without me. We made up and the same things happened yesterday. He ignored me most of the day and last night I noticed he was not online at all. This morning he came on like nothing was wrong. He called me love and told me he fell asleep at 7:30 last night! I did not really want to talk to him because I feel he is lying. Any advice?
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I'd say he's pretty young but some of this smacks of someone with borderline personality disorder - can't diagnose that since I'm not qualified, but when people freak out really easily early on in a relationship while at the same time acting fickle, it fits the descriptions:
Getting angry enough to swear (if it's vindictive or mean towards you - i.e. calling you a slut, not saying "f***, I'm upset!")
Sending 35 desperate texts at the first sign of rejection.
Ignoring you as if he's forgotten you exist - losing interest quickly.
Then expressing deep emotion at the next meeting.
See if he's ever had a relationship longer than six months. Does he exhibit self destructive behavior - thrill seeking suicidal level stuff. Does he believe he's got ESP or other super powers? If so, then my hunch might be right.
If not, then he's just too immature to have a real relationship with right now. If you are comfortable having a young sex toy to mold into a decent lover, just keep him in a collar until he's old enough to check out monogamy again. Let him off the leash to wander around, but don't consider him housebroken for a while.0