After my last relationship ended 5 months, I decided that I'm not open to the idea of approaching or dating another woman in my life. I also don't want to make friends either, they will backstab you as well. Overall, I'm completely closed off from dating and from people because I don't trust them or like them. Is this bad? I'm 23 and my decision is final. I'm not gay, It's my decision to be alone for the rest of my life..and I don't get lonely.
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The fact that you are able to live without friends or a romantic interest and not feeling lonely is a great thing indeed. It shows that you are very comfortable with yourself.
You don't want to approach another woman because there is always the risk of rejection. The same goes for friends. They can either fail to accept you for who you are or they can stab you in the back. Whenever you move out to another human being, there is always the risk that the person will move away from you, leaving you more painfully alone than you were before. Trust anyone and you may be hurt. If you are determined to not risk pain, you will have to do without many things: getting married, having children, the ecstasy of sex, friendship - all that make life alive, meaningful and significant. A full life will be full of pain. But the only alternative is not to live fully or not at all.
You have to realize not every single human being is not trustworthy. There are quite a lot of people who are very much worthy of your trust and you will be rewarded greatly if you do grant them your trust. The fact that a girl left you and your friends stabbed you in the back does not mean that everyone out there is a bad person. Somewhere out there, there is a girl who won't break your heart. Hell, there are probably much more girls who would be great for you, but you just have to find them. I am not saying that you should search for a girl like that, but I am just telling you what is possible.
My advice for you right now is to live your life like you want to. If you prefer being alone, do that and be happy doing it. Nobody if forcing you to date someone and if someone is forcing you, they shouldn't.
After a while, you should start to think about what you want in live. Fantasize about where you would like your see yourself in the future. 5 years? 10 years? Where will you be then? Do not think about how you will get there, but really think about what you would like to see. Would you like to be in a great marriage? Kids maybe? Or would you prefer to be alone? What kind of job would you be doing then?
Thinking about that can serve as setting a goal for yourself. It is very healthy to work towards something. When you do that, other things will follow.
I hope this helped you. If you have any questions, ask them!1