We are all just playing the field but the truth is I am tired of going on awkward dates and would like to starting having a serious relationship. I am dating a guy who seems really great but he is still really into dating/talking to a lot of girls. I guess for me, it makes me feel kind of like another typical date. We are going on our second date but I would like to know when I should start asking the exclusive question.
Also I would like to know if he doesn't kiss me on the first date, what should I do about second date?
(I am serious first dater but I guess this is the first guy that I actually like to have conversation and discussion with. I also am interested physically).
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let's keep his looks and personality at the side for the moment.
you want a serious relationship which I consider as really cool since the 'trend' nowadays is to go on as many dates as possible. now the next thing to do is to pinpoint all the things you want in a guy (high standards are never bad...just be realistic, everyone is going to have a flaw or 2).
so now that you know exactly what you want in a guy and the kind of relationship you'd like to have let's get back to this guy. does he reach those standards? you said that he seems to want to date around a little and get to know other girls and that doesn't make him a bad person. he's doing what he feels is right for him at the moment. but then you have to do the same for yourself.
if you want a serious relationship more than anything you owe it to yourself to know if the guy is serious about you. if he isn't do you really want to put yourself through a very likely break-up. no matter how long it takes, a break up is likely to happen IF he isn't serious and it will hurt.
so it's your choice.
how I see it any guy who likes you and cares about you enough to be worth your time, WILL try to climb those standards of yours no matter how high they are. you just need to go about this with a solid character. keep your standards no matter how hot a guy you've met is or how nice he is... whenever you lower your standards for any guy he will take advantage of that. even if it's unintentional. by just lowering your standards your letting almost any guy in and the possibility of being hurt or ending up regretting it is huge! it's the good, worthy guys that will climb your standards if they really want you and those are the kind of guys you want to have in your life.
if he isn't serious, in my opinion the sooner you move on the closer you are to finding the right guy.
basically, the most important thing right now is to know what your standards are (lowering them for NOBODY) and to get to know asap if the guy is serious. thenn if he meets your standards go on a second date acting normal. you'll know when the right moment comes I can assure you.
goodluck and I wish you the best :)
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