There's this guy I really like. We've only spent time together a couple times, once with a group of people and once just the two of us, because of busy schedules and a little bit of a distance between us. We've been talking for about a month now. We talked about sex right away and he said he would wait until I was ready because that would change things for him. The first couple weeks we texted pretty consistently. He would always text me good morning and good night every day. He will text me still but we can go a couple days without talking before he will. Then when he does he's not super talkative like he was in the beginning. When I finally give in and initiated texting him first he doesn't always reply. Even when he's out with friends, working, or doing something else, he will still text me and if he's with friends he tells me who even tho I don't know any of them. I want the flirty, him wanting to see me all the time, talkative, goofy, fun to talk to guy back that I fell for hard and fast in the beginning! How can I get him to text me more and get things back to how they were in the beginning? What about getting him to make plans with me ahead of time? I really like him and will do anything to keep him! We are both in our mid 20's.
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If he wants to be with you, then he will try be with you. If he doesn't want to be with you then he's not worth your time. There is a reason that he seems to have lost interest, and that reason is not about you, it's about him, so don't freak out. Regardless of what the reason is, only he can change himself, not you, so don't expect to change him with a magical combination of texts. Personally, I think texts are a poor form of communication anyway.
I would do as the others said; back off the texting. I would send him a text that says something like, "you seem pretty busy, so I'll leave you alone for a while" and then stop texting (unless he replies by saying he wants you to continue texting him, in which case you should explain how it feels to not get any replies from him). Come this weekend, when you get to his area, I would CALL him and see if he wants to meet up with you while you're there. If he does: hurray, have fun together and be yourself. If he doesn't then you should talk to him (not by texting) about how you feel about him, and ask him if he feels the same way. If he doesn't reciprocate your feelings then there isn't much you can do...
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