Sorry this will be a little long and I greatly appreciate you taking the time to read this.
Me and this girl are really into each other. I REALLY like her more than I've liked any girl since I was engaged, otherwise I would have walked away a long time ago.
The problem is that she has this long time friend who she has been casually seeing, non-exclusively, for a while now so they were free to date other people.
But just recently he decided he wanted to go exclusive with her, unfortunately for me this was about the time that I asked her out.
She told my friend (who she doesn't realize tells me everything) that she really wanted to date me and see where it'd go before going exclusive with this guy. But she was afraid if she said no that she'd lose him as a friend too. And even though theyre "exclusive" now she still wants to date me.
When my friend asked her why she just doesn't date me, her response was actually "my boyfriend won't let me."
So my question is how should I handle this. Walking away at this point isn't an option. Should I just be straightforward and lay all my feelings out there or should I just wait her current relationship out?
Sorry for the long post.
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1) Don't ever wait for somebody. If they weren't ready to commit to a single person from the start, then they're not worth waiting for. Plus, you will increasingly look the fool with each day that passes.
2) You're at a disadvantage because she and this "other guy" have known each other longer, have a friendship behind the semi-relationship and therefore a potentially closer bond than you could forge with her.
3) How can her "boyfriend" be making decisions for her like that? It's her life and therefore it's in her power to choose who she wants to date and when she wants to date them. If she is one of those girls who guys can easily control then she's probably not particularly bright.
This leads me to my final question: why is walking away NOT an option?2
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