I like this guy- but I'm not sure what to do. We're dating, and we've slept together.
I knew he dating someone from work a while back, but never slept with her because she was younger than him by 5 years.
He read me part of his diary, and I knew it was about her, but he didn't use names. I looked at his writing, not really to read though, and I saw the name. It jumped out at me because they were texting earlier that day. After reading me part of it (he wants me to read it all one day-I don't know why because it's basically all about this one girl) he said something about how if she read it she'd realize what a tease she was.
Later, I asked him from his past who he liked sleeping with the most, and why. I was mainly interested in why, so I could make him happy. I said he couldn't say me. He said none, because he never slept with the person he really wanted to. So I know he meant her.
I know he has a past, and I know he'll see her if he works with her. But it's the talking a lot, and it seems like he still holds a lot to her. She gives me the impression of being someone who flirts and wants guys to like her and no one else, but doesn't really want them.
There's also a girl he never dated because they didn't want to ruin their friendship because he's best friends with her older brother.
I feel like he has these unspoiled memories with these girls that I can never live up to. I've also been cheated on, and I really don't want to deal with that again. I know he hasn't done anything, but I still worry.
I just don't know how to handle this.
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Honestly I would ask him in some way to clarify where you both stand. It sounds a bit like he's trying to keep you as an option if the other girl doesn't ever work out but that would be completely unfair to you if that was the case. If you haven't already done so try to make your feelings clear to him and what you want and see how he reacts. That might give you a good indicator if he's willing to be serious with you or if he is "playing the field" so to speak. I hope this helps give you some insight into your issue and I wish you the best of luck.0