This happens to me every time I am in a relationship: me and the guy do great for the first month or so but then on MY end the passion dies off and I get bored of the relationship :(
Currently, I'm going out with this really sweet guy who I was friends with for awhile before we started dating. While we were friends, we'd flirt like crazy and hang out all the time, it was kind of like dating but we never labelled it. Then he took the step and asked me to be his girl.
I was hesitant because I didn't want to go through the passionless thing with him. But I said yes because I really do like him! However, now I'm kind of experiencing what I did with the other guys I dated. I don't want to break up with him :(((
But I need to do something to make our relationship exciting again.
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It's absolutely normal to have that first period of strong feelings for someone and it's also absolutely normal that it dies after a few months. When it does, THEN only, can start real love for a person. Passion is not love.
If you can't live without this passion, then I guess you'll never be in a long term relationship. Of course people who have been married for awhile are trying to renew that passion however they can sometimes. But in the overall they are used to each other and this "routine" is normal. They don't break up just for that. Otherwise no one would get into long term relationships and no one would have kids and family...
Rejecting the boredom of routine and breaking up with a guy just because of that, really makes you look like one hell of a illusioned self centered b*tch. And eventually you will undeniably end up alone once your youth and beauty fades away around 40 years old...
I suggest you start figuring how to keep things interesting between you and him, while at the same time accepting that it can't be exactly like it was at the beginning. Talk to him about the problem and figure out a solution together.