I've known him for an year. He's a decent, smart guy. Nerdish, computer and quantum physics geek. Also cute, although he's tall and very thin.
He knows I have a boyfriend whom I love very much. But he also knows that many times my boyfriend stands me up and that I'm almost always alone.
These last months, I see this guy more often then I see my boyfriend. I talk to him every day, in person and through text, when my boyfriend doesn't even text me for days to see if I'm OK.
He's often the one who texts first, invites me to coffee, and we just hang out alone until other friends show up (and because we don't actually call the other friends, sometimes they don't show up at all).
He's single and we usually comment on pretty girls who walk by (he says they're cute, I say I agree or not) just in a playful way. He's also always telling me that I need to introduce him my hot friends. We sometimes talk about sex (but we don't really flirt nor dirty talk)
Is it possible that I'm leading this guy on? Is my behavior inappropriate?
I'm usually "one of the boys", so this is my way of dealing with guy frieds in general. Am I sending the wrong message?
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I think you're cheating on your boyfriend here to a certain extent. If your boyfriend hasn't been able to make plans with you, or because he's busy, that doesn't mean you should run off to a guy friend and have someone temporarily "replace" your boyfriend. If your boyfriend truly is neglecting you and hardly makes any time, then do yourself a favor and let him. Avoid months of drama and arguments, and simply choose the guy who has been there since day one. Are you leading him on? Yes, though not intentionally. Does he know this? Of course. Yet he probably just wants to be there, because he wans to. Plain and simple.1