What variable or variables do you look into to make such decisions?
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I would like to take a moment to point to this article > link
That being said, I do think conmon views and understandings on what makes life a 'happy' one is a general key. And compassion.
I chose my partner because for me...he is my essential 'diamond'.
We share the same sense of humor, the same compassion, dedication, respect, and admiration for the others strengths. We know how to listen and accept the other. It's mutual.
Some of the things I looked for are:
-Enjoying doing the same things and open to trying plenty of activities together. Biking, skating, walks, go karts, camping, road trips. I could not be 'happy' with someone not as active.
-We both love to be social, but we're not into clubbing, drugs, or vices. We have a solid group of friends we like to visit and set up plans with. Holiday parties, watching sporting events, getting together just to dance in the living room, grilling...we love having good times and equally value it as a group activity.
-Neither of us are extremely judgemental.
-We equally value healthy independence.
-We both have our own hobbies and thus recognize the others' hobbies as valid an appropriate and encourage each other to pursue them.
I won't give you the full personality list, but we work well together and are a close same 'balance' of understandings. As much as I love the above article, and intend to hold to it, I don't think I'd be quite as able or satisfied with keeping him if we didn't already have all of the important 'factors' we look for. Having that part first, I believe, goes a long way. (;1