I went on a date with a really cute guy who has been persuing me for a little while.Anyway,I figured he was a bit younger than me,but I couldn't tell how young.The date was going okay,although there were things he said that I thought were odd,immature whatever.I made one comment about when a music video came out.He asked me how old I was,and I was HONEST as opposed to lying about it.My birthday JUST passed,and I'm 29...he happens to be 24.I didn't want to lie about it,because that's just bad form.BUT...the consequence of me telling the truth was almost immediate disinterest.We had fun on the date,and suddenly he had nothing to say.We called for the bill,and that was it.
I understand people have their own preferences...but WTF?So its okay for men to date a 24 year old and be 29,but if a woman does it is bad?Or they are considered old?Are you kidding me? Also,he persued me I'm sure because I STILL LOOK 24/25...so wtf? I could understand if I was aging terribly or if I was some rigid kind of chick approaching 30,but that's not the case.Most people think I'm younger because I don't come off as...BITTER.
This is the first time this has happened,and I was caught a little off guard,and it did hurt my feelings a bit...but I'm aware I must get over it.But has this ever happened to you?Girls AND boys feel free to answer...
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Girls in general want guys who are older then them, and as a result they shut out a lot of guys their own age or younger. I'm sure he knows this, and as such it's dancing around in the back of his mind that you might not be worth the investment of time, because more then likely you'll shut him out to in time. He might figure down the road you'll want a more serious commitments then he's ready to give at this point in his life, or that you will judge him on where he's at in life as not good enough. Something about the age difference dissuaded him from moving forward. It's not necessarily that he just thinks you're an old hag or whatever.
That said girls judge guys on their age and life standing all the time, so don't get on a it's OK for guys but not for girls rant. =P Guys get judge either way. If they are the same age or younger then they are "immature" and "not established" so they considered immature little boys, poor, they have commitment issues, or some other excuse the girl uses to not take him seriously. When he's older and dating younger women, then girls judge him again and call him a pedo/cradle robber, player that uses naive women/womanizer, failure because he can't get someone his own age, or whatever criticism is the topic of the hour. There will always be a group of girls that judge men like a mofo siting on the sidelines while we get with women who accept us for who we are and love us. =P0