Girls who have tried online dating, do you think from your perspective it's worth a man's time to bother with online dating?
From what I've heard, every woman gets bombarded with first messages: several a day. So, the chances of a guy grabbing a girl's attention are small. However, I've also heard that many messages are sleazy. So, would a guy who writes an intelligent first message be able to grab a girl's attention? How many intelligent messages do you get?
Also, I've noticed that there are many girls who are pretty and have interesting profiles who are still, after several months, single and accessing their profile frequently. Why do you think that is?
In my experience of half a year of online dating, out of all the girls I've messaged, only one has ever replied. And she stopped replying to me for no apparent reason. Only one girl has ever sent me a first message, and, when I replied, she didn't reply.
I don't like the bar scene because it's impossible to judge personality, shared interests, etc. But is online dating a waste of time for a (straight) guy?
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I think online dating can be really helpful, especially if you are not into the bar scene. I've been doing the online dating thing on and off for a few years. I have taken breaks when I was with people. Most recently I'm back after a 2 year hiatus while being in a relationship.
I think for a guy, especially one that wants a relationship, online dating can be really helpful. It's frustrating for sure, you might not meet someone right away. I know before I met my 2 year boyfriend, it took me about 8 months to find him. 8 months of frustrating meet ups and then no calls. The trick is to keep going. Also don't be afraid to meet people in real life as well.
Yes, girls can get a lot of messages. But I think you would be surprised by the number. I think sometimes people think girls get so many messages, when that's not always true. There are weeks that go by that I don't get a message. And then some days I get a couple. Not always good quality. Out of all the messages I receive, only about 1-2 are decent. Most people just say "hi", and give nothing to go on. I hate those messages, especially if you reply to them and they don't really converse with you. They just kind of answer your questions, and then don't ask you any (how can anyone get to know a person if they won't ask questions?).
When a pretty girl is on a dating site for a long time, there's probably a few factors at play. She might not be serious about finding someone. I made a guy's profile to see what the competition was like. And I saw a lot of girls online who put "not really looking for anything, just trying this out". So it sounds like a lot are just not serious. So perhaps that's why a pretty girl is still single, she's not really looking for a relationship. It could also be that she seems okay on the profile and online, but in person she's got some issues. Who knows.