I’ve dated guys with kids before, and I completely understand they put their kid or kids first. I wouldn’t be dating them if they didn’t put their kids first. But my ex had 5 kids, he still fount time to texts me when he had them. Not saying I want him to constnatly text me all day while he’s got em. But a ya know good morning back to the one I sent would be nice . Or a babe i’fve got the kids today. Text ya later. But not with my new guy I get nothing all damn day, yet he finds time to post sh*t on fb that has nothing to do with his kids.Has time to go to the daquire shop. I mean just annoys me that my ex fount the time but my new guy doesn’t even text me all day. I get an i’m so sorry babe. I just feel like he doensn’t know how to balance me , his kids, his friends and fam and work. I understand that’s more than a lot but hey my ex didn’t do too bad. AM I wrong for being annoyed by this? How can I get him to stop this?
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Its called he...is HAVING a life,and you need to GET a life.I say this because so much weight should not be put on a text message.Its a TEXT message for crying out loud.Some people only use texting to give actual information to another person...and not to just send empty messages that don't REALLY require a conversation.You know,messages like..."Hey","What's up"...oh yeah...and "Good Morning".Even though its a nice gesture,I think you're nagging that he didn't respond.I mean,you DO have an ongoing relationship with him right?You guys have hopefully progressed beyond the point of where something like a text not responded to,that REALLY isn't saying anything of importance,shouldn't really get you that bent out of shape.
Secondly,can he NOT have a day to himself without having to hear from you?He has his kid,and his own life to tend to.So what if he is on FB,that's him living his life. That's him HAVING a life.If he is busy living his life,you should be busy living yours and not keeping tabs on HIM. And this is where I say,I think you need to GET a life that's separate of him.Why not spend the day reading,with friends,pedicures,get your hair done etc...instead of paying attention to whether or not he is on FB. Part of a healthy relationship is both people being able to have their personal time when needed.
You might not want to hear this,but you sound terribly clingy and needy.I'm gonna tell you this now...guys don't like that.And if you approach him with this,it comes off as nagging.I can hear it now,"Why didn't you text me back ...blah,blah,blah." And then you will probably end up right back on this site in a few months,asking why your boyfriend dumped you.It would be because you are being clingy over nothing and causing drama where there is none...all because of...a TEXT.Afterall,you will most likely see or speak to him tomorrow right?...Exactly. Give him a chance to miss you,or wonder what YOU are up to.
Hopefully you are able to see why this is petty.Hopefully you can calm yourself and think rationally.While he is living his life,maybe you can go and live yours...good luck.3
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