I was on a date with a guy from a dating site last night, and we had such a good time. We drank some tea at a cafe, then ate at a vegetarian restaurant, and then took a walk in the park. Two hours in the park flew by just like that, and then I had to go home. When we went to the train station, I had to leave in a rush because my train was already there, so we didn't really get to say goodbye properly. While in the train, he called me and asked if I wanted to see him again soon. I said yes, and then we arranged that I come see him at his workplace, try the sauna that he is in charge of(a puplic swimming pool) and then go see a movie, on Thursday.
First question, how soon is it normal to fall in love? I think I have a crush on him.. I think of him all day long, and I can't stop smiling. But I'm kinda angry at myself for that, as I think that its not right after just one date, and it is very unlikely he feels the same way already!
He will have to see me in a bikini(I found a really great one, no spaghetti straps, I like mine to stay in place) but I'm kinda worried that he is gonna be turnt off(even a little). Almost any clothing makes me look slimmer than I really am, and I guess that is a nice thing, I'm just thinking that I might not look like he expected.
A similar question, I have lots of stretch marks and cellulite. What do most guys think of that? They probably do notice it, I'm thinking, but do they care? .. I'm 5'4 and weigh 130 pounds. Or 166cm and 59kg.
The guy is tall, funny and talkative. He's probably not what most would call handsome, but I think he has lovely eyes. :D he's also kinda chubby, and has some stretch marks himself(I saw on a bunch of pictures on his Facebook). But would that make him more likely to see past mine? :)
When would it be normal for me to sleep over? To kiss? Sex? You know, just estimates and what YOU think would be normal/too soon.
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You're a normal weight for your height. Stretch marks and cellulite are pretty low down the list of (physical) things I care about. For example, having an attractive face, being hygienic, having nice boobs and butt, having a nice shape, and not being overweight or underweight would all be much higher. But different guys have different preferences, of course.
I don't think it's unusual for people to have those kinds of feelings at this stage. Myabe he has those feelings too.
Different people have different norms. I think the first or second date is a good time to start getting physical, especially kisses and hugs, which aren't demanding at all if you think about it. I like to see a girl a few times before actually having sex. I think getting to know your partner before you sexually get to know them can increase (good) tension. I would say two weeks / a few dates would be a good time to have sex for the first time. If after a month or so, she still didn't want to have sex, I might feel a little unwanted.0