I'm Asian girl and my boyfriend is italian American. He's good looking successful guy, and we've been having a great relationship so far..
what my concern is, I always hear those stereotypes saying 'most of the times white guys who go for Asians are nerds' 'white guys only consider asain girls for fun casual daters nothing really serious'
so I always feel insecure about seeing my guy.
I've dated few Caucasians before, but never got into a relationship with any of them. this guy I'm seeing now is the first one..
he's not a nerd type of guy, nor has yellow fever or something. he's attractive and very intense in taking care of himself, and because of my insecurity I'm afraid he's just taking me only in a casual way. also I'm not a native speaker, that's another big concern ;(
He's very sweet to me, we have no problem in our relationship except I'm worrying too much haha
have you or your friends dated Asian girls?
I know everyone's different and has different tastes and opinions, but I just want to know how generally guys think.
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Well, that's a lot of stuff bouncing around in your head, there. Let's tackle these one by one.
"Most of the times white guys who go for Asians are nerds"
Kind of true. White guys who are ~obsessed~ with Asians are usually nerds. Anime-watching, video-game-playing weaboos who think that Japanese is just super-duper cool. They become obsessed with Japanese girls, but any Asian girl will do.
But there ARE plenty of white guys out there who are NOT obsessed with asians, but still not opposed to the idea of dating one, and may even find them more attractive on a physical level.
"white guys only consider asain girls for fun casual daters nothing really serious"
This is just typical race-purity prejudice, and it exists to some degree in every race, usually when dealing with the men. If you're a white woman, it's "Stay away from those black men, they just want to up their player status by banging a white girl". If you're black, it's "Stay away from those white men, they just want to get their jungle fever on".
Don't pay any attention to sh*t like this. YES - there are guys out there who just want to use you for sex and won't take you seriously. And there are a LOT of them, but these guys treat all women the same, not just specific races.
Don't get yourself so worked up by what other people say. You see better than ANYONE how your relationship is. If he's not giving you any reason to think that he's not taking you seriously, then don't f*ck the whole thing up with pointless worrying.3