Questions for girls, single moms, etc
How hard is it to get a date? Or is it just tougher to find a quality guy?
Do guys turn you down for having a kid?
How is the ex situation?
Most Helpful Girl
It's not hard to find some takers- at my age it's pretty much expected.
"Quality guys" are plentiful, it comes down to chemistry and if it's off I don't try to force it. I'm not looking for a replacement father-figure or a new husband as proof of anything, so it doesn't bother me when I date someone and it fizzles out for some reason. I don't take it personally- I don't think they guys do, either.
I have never been turned down by anyone- I mean, I have never expressed interest in a guy and had him be all "Yeeeeah... no" to me. If my having a child has been a deal-breaker, I am unaware of it. Usually my personality is enough to either win you over or else have you running off screaming into the night.
My ex-husband is a non-issue. We have been divorced for years- we don't talk much and when we do, it's about our child... and that's all. We're not friends, we don't hang out. We co-parent and co-exist. He has never dated anyone who overstepped her boundaries when it comes to the baby- his girlfriends have been fine, I'm neutral with them. The same goes for me. Our daughter has both a mother and father already- neither one of us is trying to provide her with a replacement, and we both behave in such a way that our respective partners know that and know they are expected to respect that.
My daughter is nearly 10 and of course she knows I date. I don't go out when she's with me. (Her dad and I share joint custody as set forth by state law.) I have a week with her and a week without her, so my dating/social life happens when she is with her dad. I don't bring a guy around her unless I am already thinking about keeping him. So far, I prefer to stay single so that hasn't been an issue for me... yet.1