I've been dating this girl for several months. She's dying from a disease called pheochromocytoma. I really love her and want to be by her side no matter what. We have been very distant with each other lately a lot (like since March) and we did talk about it last week (I know guys aren't suppose to talk about relationships) and she still loves me but she has a lot of **** going on back at home and she says she doesn't want to breakup and I'm giving her space, like I'm not texting her or calling her because it's considered clingy. She said that once she has the loose ends tied up that we'll be close like we were when we first started dating. Because of the distance though I feel as if I'm single because I'm looking at other girls but I don't want to cheat but it feels like it. I've broken up with girls in past but I don't want to break up with her because I really love her and don't want to end it because of my selfishness. Why am I thinking about other girls (like even thinking of dating those girls too)? I don't want to because I hate polygamy/cheating. I'm a dude too so why should I be worrying or caring the first place?
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Keep in mind, sometimes a woman might say she needs space, but that doesn't mean you should stop talking to her altogether. Give her a text in the morning when you wake up and say something sweet like "Good morning, beautiful" and if she wants to respond, she can, whenever she feels like it :]
As for how you're feeling, that's just a normal human emotion. Guys have the same emotions as women, we're just (generally) expected to not show them as much. You're just feeling a need for comfort and I'm guessing you're feeling a little helpless in regards to her health.
My opinion is far from expert, but I wouldn't leave her or tell her how you've been feeling (simply because she has enough stress right now). Just send her a text in the morning (or leave a voice mail if you wake up before her and know the call won't wake her; that'd be infinitely more romantic if you can do that) and let her know you're there for her. :]
And P.S. - Guys who talk about relatonships and are open about their feelings to their girlfriends are extremely mature. Its a stereotype to think that you're not supposed to have feelings or emotions and you're not supposed to talk about your relationship with your girlfriend.2