Within one week I met a girl on a dating site went on a few great dates with her.
we had a lot in common and we clicked.
we are supposed to meet again
i sent her a text message saying that I 'had a good time with her'
She also said she had a good time with me
In the last few days she has been going back to the dating site we met.
she said we had a godo time..but she's back there..
how should isee it as?
its after the 3rd date she started going back.
i also remembered from the dating site she was looking for 'friends'
nevertheless...there has been no word from her almost all week.
we ended our dates with kissing on the lips every time.
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the thing about that "looking for a friend" on a dating site is, it gives you more options for dates. Some people, including myself feel like, if you say you are "looking for a relationship" then you are desperate. So even thouhg I wanted a relationship, I choose the option "looking for a friend" because I want my man to be my best friend and my lover, and I'm not the type to just rush into a relatoinship with just anyone. I am actually looking to meet a guy who can be my best friend and that will lead into us being more.
"looking for a friend" means differnt things to different people, that is why you should discuss with your date what it means to her. You wanna make sure you two have the same understading of things, that is why you should ask and not assume. communicate
I went on a date with a guy who said "looking for a friend" and what he really wanted was a f*** buddy. when I met him and he explained to me the kind of friend he wanted. he said "meh I don't really do the whole dating thing, I'm just always really busy, you can come over to my house if you want". He filled out his profile all nicely too but he was not the type of friend that I wanted.
I went on another date with a guy who was "looking for a friend" and he told me "i just want to see where it goes" so I asked him, "where do you want it to go?" and he says, "well, I'm down for anything".. and I said, "so you are down for a relationship and you are down for casual f***ing" and he said "..well I guess"... some guys are afraid to just come right out and say what they really mean. so he was not the type of friend that I wanted because I concluded that he has difficulty with being honest with me.
another guy says "looking for a relationship" on his profile. after the first date he was blowing up my phone like a crazy person. Then he starts sending me angry text message saying "i guess you don't want to talk to me then, you are self centered anyway!" I did tell him that I enjoyed our date and he seems like a pretty cool guy, but jeeze, we went on one date only. I still considered him a total stranger not a best friend or even a boyfriend and then I considered him a crazy person after he did the phone thing so I was done with him. I even told him "friends first" but he still did not understand. I guess he thought I was playing games with him or something but I told him, "i don't even know you!, I'm not thinking of a relationship with you!"
i am currently in a relationship with a guy that I did not meet online. he knew how to be friends first and not pressure me. We talked about ex's and the kinds of guys/girls we like, family, our history, he actually let me get to know him and he really got to know me well and made me feel comfortable with going into a relationship with him. He did not feel like a stranger either because we talked regualrly, I hung out with him and his friends too, and we went on dates but this took a couple of months before I agreed to be his girlfriend0
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