If you spend a lot of time being friends and you like each other as friends already, you have a great chemistry and you just "click" with each others' thoughts.. What might be the reason that you wouldn't date that person?
Just curious, because it seems to me that if two people enjoy being with each other that much and even are on the same level on many things, why not date?
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Because while two people may have chemistry, they don't necessarily have ROMANTIC chemistry. I found that out with a friend. I loved spending time with him, he made me laugh and he was just a nice guy. So I thought, hey! Why don't we try dating! That would be even better!
But alas, while I adored him as a friend, I resented him as a lover. He became a completely different person than he was as a friend, and I didn't like that person. I wish we didn't take it there because we may still be really good friends today. But he immediately became so clingy and in my space, and gushy romantic, and it made me grow to hate him :(
I know it makes sense that if two people enjoy being together they should be partners, but it takes something extra special to be successful lovers, and not every friendship has that. It may work in some cases, but not all.2