Lets say that you meet someone amazing. You click perfectly with their personality, and love spending time together. But then they drop something on you... they are almost certainly going to wind up being in a wheelchair for the rest of their life. Currently, however, they are fine. The time when they will be forced into the wheelchair is not a set date... it may happen tomorrow or it may happen in 20 years or more. But likely it will happen in maybe 10 years or so.
Would you get in a relationship with this person? It's a situation I'm in and I'm having a very very tough time deciding. I want to be with her, but looking long term, that'd be so hard to deal with for me since I'm super active/athletic and would prefer to have someone that could do those things with me.
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My mom's in a wheelchair half the time, so I've grown up with that kind of thing. It's not that much of a hassle, though unless it's right after a surgery she can walk to the bathroom and that kind of stuff, it's just while shopping and stuff that she needs a wheelchair. My dad has never expressed that he thinks her disability is frustrating.
If I found out that my boyfriend would end up in a wheelchair, that wouldn't change anything. I love him with all my heart. I wouldn't care if he lost both legs, I'd still stay with him. So long as it wasn't something like "oh yeah, I'll be dead by the time I'm 40" then it wouldn't be a problem. I'd do everything I could to take care of him.
If you're super athletic, you could push her around on walks and stuff. Find a place with hills, really get your heart rate going. You will have friends to run with and such, but she'll be there to love you and cheer you on.0