This isn't so much a question as it is a thread for venting frustration.
I don't know about anyone else, but I am beyond frustrated with the dating scene. I'm so tired of all the gender roles, the rules, etc...it sickens me.
I hate the confusion and rules...when to call, how long to call, when to meet, how to meet, when to kiss, how fast/slow should we go, am I scaring her away, should I let her persue me, how long should it be between dates, is it okay to date more than one if we're not exclusive...
I hate it all...its exhausting. I'd say we guys have it worse because we're the role of initiator, but I've never been in a woman's shoes so I won't say that for certain. Is there anyone else out there who feels the way I do?
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I agree with you, it is frustrating out there. I am one of those people who if I like the person, it's known. I let them know, and I show it. I like to talk to them, a lot. But I try to be understanding if they are busy.
All the rules are confusing and outdated in many cases, unnecessary even. I'm of the belief that if you like someone, let them know. Call them when you want to. Hang out with them as much as you want. The couple should be the authors of their own relationship.
No one should be afraid that if they don't wait a certain amount of time after the date that they will scare the other person off. If that person wants to be with you, they won't get scared off so easily. In fact, they should be eager to talk to you :)
I think a big problem is that when we meet someone great, we want it to work out. So we go to our friends and the internet, and then we take the advice. I think both of those resources are great if you are having a problem, but you still have to think for yourself ultimately. Do what you feel is right. People's advice is really just based off their preferences and personal experiences. It's not right or wrong.