Has anyone (without their own child) dated someone with a child before, Or know of anyone that does?
I need some advice. I don't know if its the best idea to pursue this.Im scared of what will happen in the future.
Anyone know of happy endings to this kind of situation?
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I was 19 when I dated a girl who was 5 years older than me, and had a 4 year old son. I love kids to death and never really seen myself ever having one, infants actually petrify me (I'm terrified of dropping them or poking holes through their soft skin - don't judge me!)
It took some adjustment, but I jumped into the dad role and loved him like he was my own. When things ultimately ended up not working out, we broke up but I continued to visit and buy him b-day and Christmas gifts. Eventually his biological father grew some cahunas and entered the picture as well as my ex moving on to date other guys, I dropped my role as the kids guardian so as not to intervene but to this day I still hold both of them in high regards and we are on good terms. Happy ending? It isn't over yet, we may all die in a horrendous car accident or house fire but as for happy continuings I'd say, nailed it.
The important thing is if you are the one with a kid, you need to find a match for not only you, but for your child as well. One night stands and casual dating is detrimental to a child who is learning from their parent in what choices to make on later in life. If you are considering dating someone with a child, think of the responsibility you are getting yourself into, and dwell on the consequences towards the child bringing your lifestyle into their lives.
I was not thinking I would ever be a father, for a moment in time I was, and I can say it was very rewarding.
Hope this helps, woof.1
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