My problem with talking to girls, mainly attractive ones, is:
-Mind goes blank
-boring conversation topics
-feel like I'm boring them(and that's a deal breaker too in dating, think about it)
-scared of awkward silences, especially hanging out
- worst of all is I have a couple ATTRACTIVE female friends that don't wanna date me, we've been friends for a LONG time, and I still get awk silences and boring convo topics with them. And that's probably why I'm not deemed as attractive to them
I was honestly thinking to just sign up to some dating sites, date or PLATONICALLY hang with random girls, which would thus improve my confidence and social skills.
Other then that, any ideas? I did notice some days I can be extremely entertaining and fun with girls, and the ideas of what to say pop in my head, other days it just goes completely blank
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You sound a lot like my boyfriend. He told me that in high school and first year of college, he was constantly rejected (even though he's good-looking and tall) because he didn't know how to talk to girls. His friends told me how in the beginning, he'd freeze when he was around girls and not be able to say anything. So needless to say, he wasn't able to do ANYTHING with any girl.
Then he joined a frat (not the typical stupid-jock type of frats), where he was basically forced to enter social scenes and talk to girls as part of his duty. He learned from his brothers who taught him how to be or appear confident around girls and it was all uphill from there.
I am his first serious girlfriend. On our first two dates, I felt like I did most of the talking 'cause he was kind of quiet compared to my exes, so I wasn't sure if he was just shy or bored. I went with the flow and after a few more dates, he opened up and now our communication line is open.
You just have to find a girl that gets you and isn't afraid of silence. Sometimes the most romantic moments are shared in silence.1
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