I got a girl's number through a mutual friend. Was told to call her. I went into the shop where she works and introduced myself. Called her later that day to ask her out. Got the voice mail, so I left a message asking her out and saying call me.
3 days pass and she doesn't reply. I figure I would try again (text this time) and if I did not get a response then I would move on...no harm in trying and I've got nothing to lose at this point. She responded within 15 minutes and the text convo looked like this (I'm paraphrasing and leaving out names, of course, so focus more on the message being conveyed than the actual text itself):
Me: "Hey, would you like to go grab some dinner this week? If so, cool, if not just let me know " ... (I gave her an easy out with that last sentence there)
Her: "Hey, sorry for not getting back to you. I have been so busy with planning ____ event. Won't be able to have dinner, thanks tho" ... (I know for a fact this is a legitimate event she is planning)
"OK, any chance you would like to try meeting up next week? If you're just not interested it's alright" ... (I gave her a second easy out. All she had to say was "not interested" and the convo would end and we would move on)
"I will let you know. My schedule is so crazy and I have to play it day by day" ...
"I know what you mean, I've got a crazy schedule too since I work a lot during the week. Good luck with your event"
End of convo.
The optimist in me says she did not take either of the 2 "outs" I gave her, so maybe she is interested and would want to go out next week if I text her again. The pessimist in me says she is just trying to let me down easy and be nice without actually saying "I'm not interested".
What do you guys think about this situation? I'm sure it is nothing new, but it is a new experience for me and I would like advice on how to handle it. Thanks.
Thanks again for the answers. I will update this thread if anything happens.