I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I'm 20, and he's 25. I do love him but lately we've been having issues. I grew up pretty fast to get on his level and became mature for him. But sometimes I just want to live it up like a regular girl my age, but he just doesn't allow it. We're at the lowest point in our relationship and I met this guy, through my moms boyfriend actually. He's the neighbor of my moms boyfriend. We met a couple of months ago, and hit it off immediately. We have always flirted, always. Then one might we were left alone and he tried kissing me, and I told him to stop and I didn't kiss back or anything. Even though I wanted it, he knew I have a boyfriend, and he has a girlfriend. I thought it was all friendly flirting. So this last weekend, my boyfriend and I were drinking over at my moms boyfriends and the neighbors was there, and I got pretty drunk(which is NO excuse I know). My boyfriend decided he wanted to go home, so he did and I stayed and at the end of the night everyone went to bed and the neighbor and I were left alone again, and he tried kissing me again. And I let him and next thing I knew we were at his place having sex. I don't even remember it all but I feel terrible and feel even worse that after we cuddled and talked about life, our relationships and really got to know each other. And now I have to see this guy around and I'm not looking forward to it. What do I do? Tell my boyfriend? Break up with him? Keep it a secret? I've never put myself in this position.. And if all you have to say is that I'm a slut, just keep moving. Thanks.
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If your current boyfriend isn't "allowing" you to live life in the manner you see fit, I'd say it's time to move on. However, I wouldn't put much stock in this new guy, either - if he cheated on his current girlfriend with you, then somewhere down the line, you may be put in her shoes. He may not even dump his current girlfriend to be with you, instead opting for a friends-with-benefits relationship.
I'd say out of respect for your boyfriend, don't tell him about this, but break up with him for sure. Infidelity begins in the mind, and if you truly loved this guy, no situation would tempt you. When you have an amazing partner, everybody else just seems... meh. If you've already made the decision to stray, it's a signal that you're over the relationship.
Think about it, you're 20, he's 25 - he's wrapping up the party stage while you're just entering it. Granted, people are different, but in 5 years' time, he'll be ready to settle down, while you'll still feel not-partied-out. If you don't see marriage down the line, save both of yourselves the trouble and end the relationship.
It's OK to feel guilty, but I would try not to get hung up on the situation. You say you really connected with this neighbor guy, and that's cool. You should open yourself up to the possibility of dating some new people... you've been off the market since 17. Live it up.0