We've been dating for three months. Nothing's official yet, though all of his friends keep saying we need to, and I've met his family. We have good chemistry, enjoy one another's company, rarely argue, and a couple weeks ago we'd made plans to hang out with his family.
And then...he cancels. The texting stops abruptly, though he still answers when I initiate texts. He's given me no indication that I've done something wrong. The last time I saw him was on good terms, we'd made plans, everything seemed cool.
Then today I read something interesting about this man withdrawal phenomenon, lol: he's pulling away because he likes you too much or is, heaven forbid, falling in love (doubtful, but maybe he's withdrawing because the relationship we have is advancing?) And I think, had I gone to hang out with him and his family for a weekend, that would have advanced the dating to the next level, and that may have freaked him out. That's why he canceled last minute.
So anyway, my questions are 1) is this reason for withdrawal legit, and have you dudes done this before? and 2) should I be worried? Is he so afraid of commitment that he'll get turned off and start playing the field again?
Give me your thoughts, peeps. Right now, I'm playing it cool, letting him have his space, but this is really bugging me.
But if that's the case, why not just be straightforward and tell me it's over? Ugh
Perfect to my situation. Maybe that's my answer.
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Guys are not strange creatures. If he's pulling away, there is normally a simple reason for it.
Either he doesn't and hasn't wanted a serious relationship from day one, and you've always been nothing but a f*** buddy/trophy girl/hook up, or he simply has simply stopped liking you as much as you used to based on what he's learned about you.
Let's put it this way, never ever in my life (seriously not once), have I ever known a guy to pull away from a girl for any reason other than those two things. Every time I've seen a guy jump ship after a short period of time was because he wasn't that into her to begin with and she was a hook up, or he basically realized she's isn't as amazing as he thought and doesn't wish to take things any further.
Why isn't he being straight forward you ask? Well ask yourself, have you ever had to reject a guy? If so, what was one of the first things that went through your head? Point is, everyone in this world is to afraid to be the bad guy and directly hurt someone's feelings, so instead they beat around the bush, drop hints, and hope that things will just fade away so that they don't have the burden of having to confront you with bad news. Basically people need to grow a pair,6
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