OK well its kind of a long story but I'm dating this guy. He's liked me a lot since I can remember for over a year at least and only did I start giving him the time of day a few months ago. So at a party he asked me out on a date and its not that I didn't like him, he had just made me really nervous and I was honestly just scared so I said "I don't know" he almost seemed mad and he kinda walked away. Literally 5 minutes after asking me out on a date he went and had sex with my "friend" in the other room. I kinda shook it off because I kinda did reject him first but I was still really hurt .the next day I was at another party and he was there too and he was hitting on me a lot and almost following me around. And the girl that he had sex with the previous night was there as well and he wasn't even looking at her... so now were dating and he seems to still really like me. But I always have it in the back of my mind that he went and had sex with this girl 5 minutes after asking me on a date and it scares me. She goes to my school and he still talks to her and he called her pretty today. He also drove her home from school with my other friend. I mean I guess you could consider this harmless behavior but its not just any girl, he had sex with her multiple times and I feel like its just inappropriate and almost disrespectful to me... I don't know what to do... do you think he still has feelings for this girl? should I talk to him about it?.. should I stop dating him? Its just always in the back of my mind how quickly he was to go ahead and have sex with another girl after basically telling me how much he likes me and wanted to date me. And even today he defends her and asks me why I'm not friends with her. I think its pretty obvious. But iim just really hurt about the whole thing so what should I do
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Voice out your concerns to him, especially since he had sex with her right after asking you out. Ask him if he honestly still has feelings for her. If he does it'd be dangerous to continue the relationship because you could just end up getting hurt and things could end very badly.
If I were you, I wouldn't have started dating him after he did what he did because it looks like all he's interested in is sex. His doing it right after asking you out almost seems to say, "You didn't put out so I went and looked for someone who did." That being said, quite a number of guys are open to both committed relationships and friends with benefits type relationships. In that case, it could be that his way of thinking is you can have sex without feelings but if you're in a relationship it's wrong to cheat, which is why he had sex with another girl right after asking you out. It could also be that he thinks he can have sex with other women while still loving and being "committed" to you. I think it's good if you also clear up this issue and ask him what his take on it is. If you're not on the same page things could get bad.0