and why, do some of you date them any ways?
Like, I'm looking for specific things that make you think she is one..
Not your friends telling you she is.
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There are two types of gold-diggers: those who want your money NOW, and those who want it EVENTUALLY.
The first type is so obvious that only the densest guys could miss the signs: that kind of girl is always looking for ways that you can spend your money on HER. Taking her out to nice places, going on trips or vacations, or even more directly by her asking for cash or for him to buy her stuff.
The second type is more of the Anna Nicole Smith type: a 20-year-old girl who gets with an 80-year-old guy with failing health who just "happens" to be worth nearly a billion dollars, and when he died, she fought for a decade trying to get that money. At the time, this type can be harder to see for the guy, because she's not necessarily asking for a lot *right now*, and the guy could convince himself her attention was genuine, despite some pretty obvious evidence to the contrary.
Even when I was making very good money, I could easily avoid this type of girl: when I start dating a girl, I don't spend much money on her at all. My investment in her is time and attention instead. Girls who are serious about a relationship LOVE that, and girls who are looking for a payday tend to have little patience for low or no-cost dates: they want to be taken to trendy, expensive places and publically have a bunch of money spent on them, so they can feel superior to the people around them. It's actually kind of hilarious to see their expression when you tell them that your date is going to be a picnic or a walk or something like that.
The point is: I *don't* date golddiggers, and I specifically weed them out early. There are plenty of guys who have money, but are very insecure with women and want to BUY themselves a relationship, even if they say otherwise. They may get hot girls, but I don't envy them at all; I laugh at them. They'll go through hell, and they'll pay through the nose for the privilege. No thank you.1