So I've been tapping 'dat azz for the better part of a month, and this girl feels entitled to text me morning, noon, and night. She insists on holding hands whenever we're in public and becomes visibly unsettled whenever I break eye contact.
I've done absolutely nothing to indicate that I'm boyfriend material, but she seems to have no cognizance of the fact that I'm just looking for sex (not a relationship). I don't pay for her dinner; hell, I don't even take her to dinner. I just call her when I'm drunk, and she comes over; does this sound like a relationship to any of you?
So I pose the question: what is the easiest way to convey to this young woman that I'm just looking for a hook-up and nothing more? Oh, and one more thing, this obviously excludes telling her how I feel. A heart-to-heart discussion is the last thing I want.
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The problem lies with you; you have been giving her the idea that there is a relationship between the two of you.
Yes, I know, you never told her you were her Boyfriend but you still do everything a couple does and basically treat her like your BF.
General rules for keeping a booty call (what you want) are these:
- Don't spend time with her if you're not getting some (or else you will start to genuinely like each others company and the relationship will grow further)
- Don't see her more then once a week, preferably only once every 2 weeks (if you do the same with several women you'll still get laid a few times a week)
- Don't go on dates with her (you can deny all you want but you said you are seen in public with her, which means that you kinda go on dates. The moment she is showing you off to the world it already means she's proud of you and wants to show you off as her BF. Avoid this as much as possible. If you're doing it right, nobody should know that you are sleeping with her.
- Don't get introduced to her family and best friends, they will associate you with her as her BF. The same counts for you own family and best friends because some girls will use everyone around you to "get you". Examples are; taking your friends or family's number to hang out with them so she can get in your regular life. You don't want her hopping in your life at her will so avoid this at all cost.
Don't give her your phone number etc either and try to only sleep over at her place.
If you read all these common rules I've written here it should be obvious to you what you have been doing wrong and why she is trying to escalate the relationship further.
You need to learn to keep a good distance from booty calls and not getting to deep involved with conversations etc. Keep everything superficial and don't see her as much.
The best way to fight your urge to constantly want to see her (because you have that, because no sane guy would be sleeping with his booty call for "the better part of the month") is to date and sleep with other women on the side so you that you have a wider range of choices to choose from when you are feeling horny and can rotate your girls to optimally not seeing any of them more then once a week.
Also, it's better to tell girls upfront what you are looking for and make them decide if they still want to go for it. Most girls will still sleep with you if you are upfront about your intentions and if their not, you're still lucky because that means you just dodged a "commitment bullet" :D
And last; you talk in a very disrespecting tone about women you sleep with, although this might sound fun and cool it will lead to people thinking you are using them and girls will start to avoid you.
It's better to use a manner of talking trough which it seems that she is using you or at least that the both of you have a mutual understanding and both enjoy it.
If you talk like that, other girls will also be like "I wanna c what I'm missing out on" :D