So, here's my question. Let's say you go on a first date. It goes as planned, no problems, but you just aren't feeling the sparks. No real connection has been formed and at that point, you can't see it going on for a long time.
Would you tell her at the end that even though the date was fun, you don't want to keep it going? Or, would you give yourself more time to think and tell her later via phone.
Personally, I would want time to analyze the situation, but I don't want to come off as a coward by not telling her in person. I want to make the right choice.
I am especially interested in what the ladies have to say. If you had to be turned down, how would you want it?
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Call her and be honest, and I tell you this for several reasons: If you are not sure and need time to think and simply disappear, if you decide to call her again some time later, you will have lost the chace because she will be mad at you. She will have noticed you have disappeared and she will feel very rejected because she hasn´t been informed about what your feelings are about the situation.
Call her and tell her: listen, I want to be honest with you because I don´t want to hurt you ( she will be very thankful for this, believe me), and I´m not sure if I want to date you/ have a relationship with you now etc...
Make sure she feels free to date other guys, because it´s not fair to string someone along just because you´re not sure. Also, remeber that sometimes, love and affection grow with time and when you get to know the person.0