i know girls who do this. they will keep a guy around if he is pursuing her and will say "he's gone if I find someone better"while acting interested because they can't bear the idea of "not having any options" so they would not dump him unless they meet a new option first. because heaven forbid they throw out a free date.
i think it is desperate, shows a low self esteem (she is so starved for attention that she will lead a guy on just not to be alone while secretly hoping to replace him) and is quite frankly bitchy.
i only date someone I truly care for and/or have a future with. I am single now but I don't see dating the wrong guy I see no future with as smart, I see it as an obstacle because my goal is to settle down with the RIGHT person.
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Many people do this. As you say, they fear being alone, so they always have somene as an 'option' until something 'better' comes along.
This inevitably leads to emotional scenes, possibly even violent ones, when someone eventually discovers he has been used as an 'option.'
Sometimes, these 'options' last for years, and the eventual explosion is that much worse.
I feel sorry for everyone involved in these situations, but especially sorry for the 'option' person, who has been USED in a disrespectful way.1