I had high hopes for this girl because she seemed to be into me and really responding to me during class. We finally scheduled a tennis date and we went on it. I guess it was fun. We just did that and walked around a bit and then at the end she offered me her hand to shake. That's how I knew it was a failure.
Every first date for me has failed so far. I can't get past the friend vibe. And if I get too aggressive/push things, it's just weird and awkward.
I don't know what to do. I'm on the verge of just giving up. I don't understand it at all.
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My personal definition of first date: The place and time where you unambiguously express sexual interest "I like you as woman, I want to know whether the feeling is mutual". When a woman accepts your offer for a date, it means she likes you a little and wants to see if you're her type of guy. A big mistake many guys do is to play the friend card in hopes women magically start developing feeling towards them. Playing the friend card is understandable, you want to play safe and don't risk anything by showing her your sexual nature. You genuinely want her to see you as a guy who appreciates her as a whole person, not just a jerk who is after sex only. This is a mistake because Men ignore women categorise us in two groups: Men they want to fcuk, and the others; if We don't show us we are interested in them in a sexual way, we'll probably be put in the second group, a.k.a. Friend Zone. All men are sexual, but girls can't conceive the idea that, deep inside, all Men are like that.
Conveying sexual interest is a must. But there's a catch, it has to be done in a subtle manner and only after getting the green lights from her. Conveying sexual intention can be as easy as displaying our masculine dominant nature: Teasing, giving orders, flirting, running kino. You need to put careful attention to the signs of interest she might give you, only then you can make your moves: going for the kiss, making out, heavy touching, even taking her to your place. If you put your move on her without her giving you any sign of interest is going to look aggressive/pushy/weird/awkward, you're going to scare her off.0