This girl used to hook up with this guy. It ended up causing a lot of problems between them because I think he was getting attached. She avoided him for a few months.
She's always seemed interested in me. She would rub my arm and tell me I should come over more often (she lived with one of my best friends) and things like that. I was interested, but I didn't really think of her as someone I'd date.
At the end of March, there was a case race. She was trying to get me on her team, but I had already told my friend I'd be on a team with him and she didn't have room for both of us. I ended up bringing a girl (apparently it's well-known that we had a thing last year, but now we're just friends). The first girl ended up hooking up with that one guy that night.
So I just assumed they started hooking up again. A few weeks ago I started looking at her differently. I was getting ready to ask her out when I realized that she is actually dating that guy. I've never seen them hold hands or get cuddly together. He'll just start getting frisky with her and she'll get frisky back, so I don't know how serious they are.
So basically, is it possible that she's still into me even though she's dating this guy?
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I dated a guy I wasn't really into while I was really into another guy. We'll call the guy I dated Aaron and the guy I really liked Bryan.
I think Aaron and I were on the same page when it came to us dating- neither of us was that serious about it, but we enjoyed each others' company and had a mutual attraction we acted on. We were never touchy feely or cuddly and we definitely didn't do any of the cute stuff couples normally do. It was just a very casual, laid back thing that never went anywhere and I don't think either of us wanted it to go beyond what it was.
During this time I was extremely into Bryan- a friend of mine who I spent a whole lot of time hanging out with almost every week. We were affectionate with each other and at times acted more like a couple than Aaron and I did. Bryan knew about the Aaron thing, we even talked about it, but it never stopped us from sitting on his patio and talking for hours. I was totally infatuated with him...
So- if I liked Bryan so much, why did I date Aaron? Well, because while Bryan and I hung out a lot and he generally seemed to care about me, he was also in a phase of dating a lot of girls- probably like 2 a month. I wasn't interested in being one of the many and I was kind of afraid of risking what we had if it was only an experiment for him. And, I'll admit, in some ways I guess I hoped he might get a little jealous of Aaron.
Of course, Bryan knew me too well for that (he still does) and he knew I wasn't serious about Aaron. He pretty much just waited until the thing with Aaron ended completely, then he invited me over one night to hang out and told me he liked me, had just been waiting to be sure he was completely over his ex before he asked me out because he didn't want me to be a rebound, I meant more to him than that. And that pretty much sealed it for me- how do you say no to that, especially when you like the person to begin with? We've been together for 2 years now...0