So my married boyfriend (no judging) and I have recently begun texting. Unfortunately I misunderstood a text and sent him one when I shouldn't have. Now I feel stupid for not understanding. I mean it could have been more than a text that could have been sent to the wrong person. And this happens at least once every time we allow cell phone communication over the past ten years. One day this is going to end badly. Any way to help this problem other than no communication?
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Hold up- wait a minute. So I read the interaction between you and Stitches down there and I can't possibly be interpreting your words correctly. I hope you will clarify- because it really comes across to me like you are blaming Dude's wife for YOUR behavior. Now, that can't be right, can it? Because... no, honey. No, no. If you want to bang a married guy, that is up to you and I have no opinion on that whatsoever- its his marriage and it's your life so y'all do the damn thing and whatever. What I WILL take exception with is your perceived attempt to justify your actions by dogging the Mrs out all to be damned. You don't get to do that. What she may or may not have done is none of your affair- if you will pardon the pun.
If you have the balls to take a big old crap all over the "Sacred Institution of Marriage", then you should damn well have the balls to take ownership of YOUR actions. The fact is that if you feel the need to explain or marginalize your part in all this by talking straight up sh*t (which is none of your business, frankly) about the woman HE chose to wed, then I submit that you feel ICKY about what you are doing. If you felt okay about it then you wouldn't have to hold her up as the villain, now would you? I am not suggesting you need to be her advocate- neither do you need to make her your enemy. Unless this woman has done something bad to YOU personally (besides having the temerity to be married to the guy you're f***ing) then you do not get to run your mouth about her. F***him, by all means- but do not make HER the bad guy. Maybe there isn't a bad guy, have you thought about that? Do you even know this woman? If you don't, then all you are getting is ONE person's certainly biased point of view. And for you to call down judgment upon her is wrong- in my estimation is it far more wrong of you to judge her than it is for you to bang her husband. Do not make excuses for what you are doing. You know it's sh*tty. You know it is unpopular. You can not make it right by holding up her alleged flaws to the light of day while you hide your doings in the shadows. All you can do at this point is to be unapologetic for your actions- that is your right- and to not particularly give a rat's ass what other people think about what you're doing with that married guy- which is also your right. THAT, I can respect. What I can't swallow is your weak attempt to make others sympathize with your position by running her down. Don't do that. Have the courage of your convictions, even in the face of others' disapproval.
Now to answer your question: when you are up to shady business, you run the risk of getting caught- period. There are no two ways about it- cell phone comm or no cell phone comm. Your question is vague and therefore so is my answer.1