I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks and we've been on two dates that he both initiated. We are planning to go on a third to the movies in a few days. We haven't kissed yet, but will he be expecting it? From what I've heard he is fairly experience. I've never kissed anyone, and honestly don't want my first kiss to be in the back of a movie theater. Gross. But I really do like him and have for a long time. So is there anything I can do to prolong our relationship without kissing, or find a way to make it more romantic? How can I avoid kissing him yet without seeming like I don't like him. I just feel like I'm not ready yet? What should I do? Okay maybe I do feel ready, I just don't want to kiss him in the theater, or the car. How can I make it perfect and romantic?
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There is a lot of meaning placed on a first kiss, but you need to take a breath and relax because you will have many "First kisses". What you learn is that the kiss is special because of whom you share it with, not because you have not kissed before (Although a new experience will set you tingling all over).
From a guy's perspective, a 3rd date would have some expectation of a kiss.
My advice is you should maybe offer to change the plan of the date. Call him up and say that you would actually like to go do some other activity. There are lots of great things to do while dating and in my honest opinion, the movie theater is the most Boring.
Go play mini golf, bowling, picnic, something that you love or enjoy. You can watch a movie anytime together and in a theater you either sit in the back and kiss (in uncomfortable chairs) or you watch a movie like zombies.
A kiss will be more meaningful as a celebration after a good putt, a strike, or as a thank you for a lovely time. Not in a theater. Your gut feeling is right.
NOW, IF he doesn't want to change the date or can't but you don't want to be kissed. Pick a seat in the middle in front of or next to other people. He will be less inclined to try for a 1st kiss if you are not in a secluded area. Isle seat is great :P Finally, to avoid car kiss, ask to go for a little walk to stretch legs after the movie. Then you can turn and kiss him when you feel the right moment in the conversation (or even wrong moment). He won't expect that, which makes it all the better.