I'm not sure why, but dating is really hard for me. I'm reasonably attractive and smart, I talk to people,like watching and playing sports but guys just aren't interested.
I'm 20 now and never had a boyfriend, so I was thinking of buying one of those dating advice/self help books. But there are tons of them, it's hard to filter out the good ones.Also most seem to be written by women and I'm not sure but I think men would get better advice there.
I borrowed steve harveys "act like a lady, think like a man" from a friend and I guess it had some valid points but a lot of the advice was obviously for girls older than me. Like when to introduce your children
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The problem with using dating advice books are that it is aimed at people who do not have any luck or success in the dating game. The reason these people are not doing well with dating is that they lack the skills, or dare I say personality, to be able to get a date in the first place.
The problem here is that these kind of books force a person to change themselves in order to make themselves more attractive to the opposite gender. I don't know about you but I don't want to change myself drastically just to be more successful with the opposite gender. You're putting on act and being fake, and the guys/girls you are attracting will not be attracted to the real you.
It's a lose-lose situation. You're paying for books which tell you that being yourself and being true to who you are is the reason you are not successful with dating. It also ends up with you dating the wrong kind of person for you. You think this person is attracted to you but they're not. They're attracted to the person that you're trying to be. So even they, as well as you, will be disappointed once the chemistry is gone and you find yourselves drifting apart and losing contact with each other. And that WILL happen. There's only so long this particular charade can go on for.0